Welcome to ”The Self-Hype Podcast,” hosted by Eli Vazquez – your ultimate destination for unfiltered discussions on dating, love, personal development, and relationships. Get ready for Eli’s No-BS advice, raw talk on love, and empowering insights from expert guests in the dating and personal development sphere. Join us as Eli cuts through the noise, providing practical tips, relatable stories, and transformative wisdom to navigate the modern landscape of love and self-improvement.
Episodes
Thursday Oct 03, 2024
Thursday Oct 03, 2024
This week Eli sits down with Dr. Sarah Hensley, a social psychologist and relationship expert, to discuss attachment styles and how they influence dating dynamics. Dr. Hensley shares insights into identifying and understanding different attachment styles, such as avoidant and narcissistic tendencies, highlighting the importance of accountability and self-awareness in relationships. Together, they explore how one's level of empathy and accountability can signal the difference between attachment issues and narcissism. Throughout the episode, they delve into effective communication, managing conflicts, and building capacity for secure attachment while offering practical tools for fostering healthier, more fulfilling relationships.
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00:00 Cold Open
00:30 Welcome to The Self-Hype Podcast
01:19 Diving into Attachment Styles and Avoidance
02:47 Dr. Hensley's Journey: From Personal Struggles to Professional Expertise
04:17 Exploring Narcissism and Attachment Issues
06:20 The Science Behind Attachment and Relationship Dynamics
09:18 Navigating Conflict and Emotional Regulation in Relationships
15:46 Strategies for Loving and Understanding Avoidant Partners
27:24 When to Seek Help: Recognizing Persistent Relationship Conflicts
28:47 Understanding the Trigger Cycle
29:16 Building Capacity for Secure Attachment
30:02 The Importance of Doing the Work
30:58 Dealing with Avoidant Partners
32:08 Setting Boundaries and No Contact
32:59 The Impact of Loss on Avoidants
36:44 Can You Get Back with Your Ex?
43:47 Key Questions for Early Dating
52:01 Following Dr.Hensley
54:04 Final Thoughts
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Thursday Sep 26, 2024
Thursday Sep 26, 2024
In this week's episode, Eli tackles the reasons why many people keep dating the same toxic partners and emphasizes the importance of self-accountability and personal growth in the dating process. He urges listeners to examine their patterns and the love they're used to versus the love they truly need, stressing the necessity of building a fulfilling life outside of relationships. Eli discusses how understanding one's non-negotiables and embracing self-love can lead to healthier dating experiences, while also encouraging listeners to redefine their perception of safety and excitement in relationships. He wraps up by offering tools and insights to help listeners break free from negative dating cycles and find partners that align with their true selves.
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00:00 Cold Open
00:33 Welcome to the Self Hype Podcast
00:44 Why We Keep Finding the Same Type of Partner
02:37 The Importance of Self-Accountability
05:26 Creating a Fulfilling Life Beyond Dating
08:28 Defining Your Path and Finding the Right Partner
16:26 Understanding the Love You're Used To vs. The Love You Need
22:11 The Allure of the Flashy Guy
22:54 Finding Value in Safety
24:40 Learning from Failed Relationships
26:41 Setting Non-Negotiables
28:29 Navigating Awkward Dates
30:57 Intentional Communication
33:36 Self-Love and Accountability
39:54 The Ancestral Perspective
41:51 Embracing the Dating Journey
43:18 Conclusion and Next Steps
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Thursday Sep 19, 2024
Thursday Sep 19, 2024
Eli welcomes Kim Guera, a writer, therapist, and entrepreneur known for her brand Badass Bonita and her advocacy in self-love and community empowerment. The episode delves into themes of self-discovery and breaking silence, with Kim sharing her personal journey of overcoming the imposed silence of her childhood through the power of writing and speaking out. She discusses her evolution from feeling bound by societal expectations to embracing her voice as a tool for change and healing, leading to the creation of a supportive community and her book, "Badass Bonita." This episode highlights the transformative power of self-expression and the impact of community support in personal development.
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00:00 Cold Open
00:31 This Week's Topic: Self-Discovery
00:39 Guest Introduction: Kim Guera
01:13 Kim's Journey: Breaking the Silence
04:24 The Power of Writing and Speaking Up
06:49 Creating Community: Badass Bonita
09:12 The Healing Process and Vulnerability
22:51 The Importance of Relationships in Healing
37:44 Embracing Queerness and Self-Love
42:26 Reflections on Healing and Growth
47:15 Final Thoughts
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Thursday Sep 12, 2024
Thursday Sep 12, 2024
In this week's episode Eli explores the age-old question, "Can a man change?" and delivers some hard truths for listeners, particularly women who hope to see their partners transform for them. He emphasizes that true change in a man must come from within, driven by self-awareness and personal growth, rather than from external pressures or relationships. Eli shares his own experiences of evolving through introspection and solitude, and he encourages listeners to embrace uncomfortable conversations in their relationships, while also recognizing that their partner's potential to change is not their responsibility to manage. Ultimately, Eli advises focusing on self-healing and setting boundaries, especially when a partner's lack of growth causes emotional turmoil.
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00:00 Can a Man Change?
00:33 Welcome to the Self Hype Podcast
02:13 The Big Question
05:59 Personal Reflections and Experiences
11:13 The Role of Self-Awareness and Accountability
12:47 Dealing with Defensiveness and Potential
16:43 The Reality of Change and Moving On
19:21 Embracing Uncomfortable Conversations
31:25 Final Thoughts
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Thursday Sep 05, 2024
Thursday Sep 05, 2024
Eli sits down with his first therapist, Maritza Palacencia, a licensed marriage and family therapist, to explore the complexities of relationships, trauma, and healing. The episode delves into the challenges of navigating triggers within partnerships, the significance of radical honesty, and the importance of therapy in fostering intimacy and growth. Eli reflects on his own therapeutic journey and how Maritza's guidance was pivotal in his personal development, while Maritza shares insights on how couples can work through difficulties together and the transformative power of therapy. The conversation highlights the ongoing process of healing, both individually and in relationships, and emphasizes the value of addressing trauma and building healthier connections.
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00:00 Cold Open
00:32 Welcome to #SelfHypePod
01:17 The BuzzFeed Therapy Experience
03:17 The Impact of Therapy on Men
08:08 Maritza's Journey to Becoming a Therapist
14:12 Navigating Couples Therapy
24:30 Radical Honesty in Relationships
34:39 Navigating Trauma and Its Impact on Relationships
37:59 Understanding and Utilizing EMDR Therapy
41:37 Integrating Partners into the Healing Process
45:29 Managing Triggers and Attachment Styles
57:01 Knowing When to Work on Yourself or Walk Away
01:00:24 Final Thoughts
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Friday Aug 30, 2024
Friday Aug 30, 2024
Eli Vasquez tackles the concept of "no contact" after a breakup, passionately arguing that it's a necessary step for proper healing rather than an option to reconsider. Eli emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries, blocking ex-partners, and focusing on self-growth to avoid the pitfalls of lingering attachments. Through personal reflections and practical advice, he encourages listeners to embrace the pain of heartbreak as a catalyst for becoming stronger and more self-aware, ultimately leading them to healthier relationships in the future.
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00:00 Cold Open
00:23 Welcome to the Self Hype Podcast
00:52 Eli's Personal Reflections
03:28 The No Contact Rule Explained
05:43 The Importance of Healing
08:16 Setting Boundaries and Moving On
15:08 Special Considerations for Parents
17:10 Final Thoughts
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Thursday Aug 22, 2024
Thursday Aug 22, 2024
Eli dives into the world of overachievers, perfectionists, and people pleasers, welcoming Masha Kay, a nervous system and breathwork coach, as his guest. Masha shares her personal journey from being an actuarial scientist, driven by the need to overachieve, to embracing a path of wellness coaching. She discusses how a life-changing car accident and the realization that her career was unfulfilling led her to reevaluate her life and transition into helping others bridge the gap between where they are and where they want to be. Throughout the episode, Masha emphasizes the importance of understanding the nervous system, healing trauma, and developing a more compassionate approach to personal growth and relationships.
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00:00 Overachieving to Feel Equal
00:35 Welcome to the Self Hype Podcast
02:18 Masha's Journey: From Actuarial Science to Wellness Coaching
05:55 The Turning Point: Car Accident
08:39 The Messy Path to Self-Discovery
17:50 Understanding the Root of Overachieving and People Pleasing
23:11 Masha's Childhood and the Immigrant Experience
33:20 Understanding Executive States
34:24 Nervous System Responses
35:03 Dealing with Conflict
39:12 Rewiring the Nervous System
42:27 Practical Tools for Regulation
50:57 Communicating with Partners
01:00:26 Embracing Flexibility in Growth
01:06:16 Final Thoughts
Masha Kay is a Nervous System and Breathwork + Coach specializing helping you bridge the gap between where you are and where you want to be through gradual and sustainable habit changes, powerful emotional processing and deep inner healing. Her approach, grounded in the principles of psychology, neuroscience and spirituality, helps you quiet the internal battle between your mind, body and nervous system. Masha teaches you to embrace a more peaceful and aligned way of approaching your life, relationships and goals.
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Thursday Aug 15, 2024
Thursday Aug 15, 2024
Eli discusses the phenomenon of ghosting in dating, exploring the reasons behind why people ghost and how to handle it with resilience and self-respect. He emphasizes that ghosting reflects more about the ghoster's character than the recipient's worth, advocating for self-worth and proper closure from such experiences. Eli also tackles how to move forward after being ghosted, urging listeners to see it as an opportunity to affirm their values and expect better treatment, effectively turning the painful experience into a moment of empowerment and self-discovery.
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00:00 Cold Open
00:32 Understanding Ghosting
02:46 Why People Ghost
05:02 Dealing with Ghosting
07:43 Self-Reflection and Moving On
12:20 Empowerment and Self-Worth
23:25 Final Thoughts
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Thursday Aug 08, 2024
Thursday Aug 08, 2024
Eli explores the complex dynamics of returning to a previous relationship, particularly focusing on the psychological aspects of reconciliation. He discusses the common reasons men return and the emotional baggage that might accompany such decisions. Eli advises listeners on how to discern whether a returning partner genuinely seeks to amend the relationship or simply finds it a convenient option. Throughout the segment, Eli emphasizes the importance of self-awareness, the setting of robust boundaries, and the need for clear, honest communication to ensure that any reunion is healthy and sustainable, not just a temporary fix to deeper issues.
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00:00 Is He Seeing Other People?
00:25 Intro
02:02 Trust Issues on First Dates
04:08 Icebreaker Questions for First Dates
06:30 Explaining Your Job to Family
07:39 Finding Personal Peace
11:28 Dealing with Toxic Exes
12:52 Should You Mute Your Ex on Social Media?
13:34 When Persistence is Toxic
14:34 Breadcrumbing and Moving On
17:21 Dating Someone Who's Divorced and Still Friends with Their Ex
19:10 He Keeps You on Socials but Never Reaches Out
19:52 Why Can't I Be the One He Chooses?
21:55 Thanks for Watching!
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Thursday Aug 01, 2024
Thursday Aug 01, 2024
Eli answers community questions, providing candid and insightful advice on various aspects of love, dating, and personal growth. He tackles topics ranging from how to deal with trust issues on first dates to understanding whether someone you're dating is seeing other people. Eli's responses are both humorous and profound, offering practical tips and emotional wisdom to help listeners navigate their romantic lives with confidence and self-awareness. This interactive session reflects Eli's commitment to directly engaging with his audience, making complex topics accessible and relatable.
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00:00 Is He Seeing Other People?
00:25 Intro
02:02 Trust Issues on First Dates
04:08 Icebreaker Questions for First Dates
06:30 Explaining Your Job to Family
07:39 Finding Personal Peace
11:28 Dealing with Toxic Exes
12:52 Should You Mute Your Ex on Social Media?
13:34 When Persistence is Toxic
14:34 Breadcrumbing and Moving On
17:21 Dating Someone Who's Divorced and Still Friends with Their Ex
19:10 He Keeps You on Socials but Never Reaches Out
19:52 Why Can't I Be the One He Chooses?
21:55 Thanks for Watching!
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