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Thursday Jan 02, 2025

How To Create Resolutions To Transform Your Love Life In 2025

Thursday Jan 02, 2025

It is our first episode of 2025 and we are starting off strong with what boundaries and non-negotiables to bring into the new year for transforming your life! Eli goes into some hard truth bombs and realizations to how to hold yourself accountable in the new year to create new actions in your resolutions that stick. All to make you have the most abundant 2025 ever!

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Thursday Dec 26, 2024

The Lessons On Love I Learned In 2024

Thursday Dec 26, 2024

Eli reflects on his personal healing journey and the upcoming stressors of the TikTok Ban. Eli deep dives on some hard truth bombs while using his real life examples and personal experiences as examples. He shares the fears and vulnerabilities and highlights the importance of self-awareness, emotional accountability, and shedding societal pressures to create a life of fulfillment. Eli encourages listeners to embrace the hardship of self-awareness and the human experience. All to gear you up for 2025!

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Thursday Dec 19, 2024

The 3 Things That Made Me Want To Go From Single Bachelor To Husband

Thursday Dec 19, 2024

Eli reflects on his personal journey from being a self-proclaimed bachelor to embracing the idea of settling down and building a meaningful partnership. He shares the fears and vulnerabilities that kept him from committing in the past and highlights the importance of self-awareness, emotional accountability, and shedding societal pressures to create a life of fulfillment. Eli encourages listeners to embrace growth, face their own fears, and stop waiting for someone else to change, emphasizing that true transformation comes from within.

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00:00 Why I Stayed Single
00:34 Personal Journey: From Bachelor to Husband
01:45 Podcast Evolution and Self-Discovery
04:57 Realizations and Growth
07:50 Commitment and Monogamy
11:50 Facing Fears and Embracing Vulnerability
20:54 Advice for Women: Understanding Men's Journey
30:06 Moving Forward with Confidence

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Thursday Dec 12, 2024

How To Better Connect Sexually w/ Licensed Sex Therapist Dr. Emily Jamea

Thursday Dec 12, 2024

In Episode 35 of "The Self-Hype Podcast," Eli Vazquez sits down with Dr. Emily Jamea, a renowned sex and relationship therapist, to explore the connection between intimacy, emotional connection, and personal growth. They discuss how sexual satisfaction evolves over time, the impact of attachment styles on intimacy, and the importance of communication and vulnerability in fostering healthy relationships. Dr. Jamea introduces the concept of achieving a "flow state" during sex and offers actionable insights from her research and book, Anatomy of Desire, on cultivating deeper emotional and physical connections. The conversation emphasizes the significance of breaking taboos around intimacy and embracing discomfort to build fulfilling and sustainable relationships.

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00:00 Intensity Does Not Equate with Compatibility
01:48 Dr. Jamia's Journey into Sex Therapy
04:08 The Importance of Sexuality in Relationships
07:56 Addressing Sexual Shame and Misconceptions
10:50 The Impact of Social Media on Sexual Relationships
14:46 Navigating Sexual Preferences in Relationships
19:56 The Importance of Communication in Sexual Relationships
24:41 Embracing Discomfort in Relationships
25:27 The Importance of Sexual Communication
26:08 Testing Sexual Chemistry Early On
26:56 Balancing Sexual and Emotional Connection
28:46 Exploring Personal Sexuality
29:49 Sexual Misconceptions and Socialization
31:29 Attachment Styles and Sexual Expression
36:16 Achieving Flow State During Sex
43:28 The Role of Therapy in Long-Term Satisfaction
45:45 Connect with Dr. Emily!

Dr. Emily Jamea is a sex and relationship therapist based in Houston, TX. With over 15 years of experience, she has helped thousands of people create connection and cultivate passion. Her new book, Anatomy of Desire: Five Secrets to Create Connection and Cultivate Passion, is currently available everywhere books are sold. Emily speaks nationally and internationally to a diverse range of audiences including educators, health and mental health professionals, executive and corporate groups, and the general public. Her expertise has been featured in Oprah Magazine, CNN, USA Today, NBC, and more. She offers online workshops as part of her mission to make her knowledge accessible to everyone. She hosts the popular Love & Libido Podcast, writes columns for Psychology Today and Healthy Women, and posts across all the social media channels. In her free time, Emily enjoys spending time with her husband and children, traveling as much as possible, and salsa dancing and painting when she gets the chance.

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Thursday Oct 03, 2024

Understand Attachment Styles w/ Dr. Sarah Hensley

Thursday Oct 03, 2024

This week Eli sits down with Dr. Sarah Hensley, a social psychologist and relationship expert, to discuss attachment styles and how they influence dating dynamics. Dr. Hensley shares

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00:00 Cold Open
00:30 Welcome to The Self-Hype Podcast
01:19 Diving into Attachment Styles and Avoidance
02:47 Dr. Hensley's Journey: From Personal Struggles to Professional Expertise
04:17 Exploring Narcissism and Attachment Issues
06:20 The Science Behind Attachment and Relationship Dynamics
09:18 Navigating Conflict and Emotional Regulation in Relationships
15:46 Strategies for Loving and Understanding Avoidant Partners
27:24 When to Seek Help: Recognizing Persistent Relationship Conflicts
28:47 Understanding the Trigger Cycle
29:16 Building Capacity for Secure Attachment
30:02 The Importance of Doing the Work
30:58 Dealing with Avoidant Partners
32:08 Setting Boundaries and No Contact
32:59 The Impact of Loss on Avoidants
36:44 Can You Get Back with Your Ex?
43:47 Key Questions for Early Dating
52:01 Following Dr.Hensley
54:04 Final Thoughts

Dr. Sarah Hensley has a Ph.D. in Social Psychology and has been studying the science of relationships for over 15 years. She’s an expert in attachment science, which very accurately predicts relationship behavior. Attachment style predicts how people handle conflict, how they communicate in romantic relationships, and how and why they can feel triggered or upset by their partners. In addition, Dr. Hensley is an expert in the science of attraction, and she understands the deep underlying reasons why certain people are attracted to others. She has coached thousands of clients on how to find and keep healthy and happy romantic relationships. Dr. Hensley is confident in her ability to help individuals repair any relationship—even when you’ve been broken up for months, divorce has been filed, or when couples counseling has failed. Sarah’s services include Group Hybrid Coaching, One-On-One Coaching, Couples Coaching and Executive Coaching.

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Thursday Sep 26, 2024

Why You Keep Dating The Wrong Guy And What To Do About It

Thursday Sep 26, 2024

In this week's episode, Eli tackles the reasons why many people keep dating the same toxic partners and emphasizes the importance of self-accountability and personal growth in the dating process. He urges listeners to examine their patterns and the love they're used to versus the love they truly need, stressing the necessity of building a fulfilling life outside of relationships. Eli discusses how understanding one's non-negotiables and embracing self-love can lead to healthier dating experiences, while also encouraging listeners to redefine their perception of safety and excitement in relationships. He wraps up by offering tools and insights to help listeners break free from negative dating cycles and find partners that align with their true selves.

This week Eli sits down with Dr. Sarah Hensley, a social psychologist and relationship expert, to discuss attachment styles and how they influence dating dynamics. Dr. Hensley shares

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00:00 Cold Open
00:33 Welcome to the Self Hype Podcast
00:44 Why We Keep Finding the Same Type of Partner
02:37 The Importance of Self-Accountability
05:26 Creating a Fulfilling Life Beyond Dating
08:28 Defining Your Path and Finding the Right Partner
16:26 Understanding the Love You're Used To vs. The Love You Need
22:11 The Allure of the Flashy Guy
22:54 Finding Value in Safety
24:40 Learning from Failed Relationships
26:41 Setting Non-Negotiables
28:29 Navigating Awkward Dates
30:57 Intentional Communication
33:36 Self-Love and Accountability
39:54 The Ancestral Perspective
41:51 Embracing the Dating Journey
43:18 Conclusion and Next Steps

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Thursday Sep 19, 2024

Why You Need To Break Your Silence And Own Who You Are w/ Author Kim Guerra

Thursday Sep 19, 2024

Eli welcomes Kim Guera, a writer, therapist, and entrepreneur known for her brand Badass Bonita and her advocacy in self-love and community empowerment. The episode delves into themes of self-discovery and breaking silence, with Kim sharing her personal journey of overcoming the imposed silence of her childhood through the power of writing and speaking out. She discusses her evolution from feeling bound by societal expectations to embracing her voice as a tool for change and healing, leading to the creation of a supportive community and her book, "Badass Bonita." This episode highlights the transformative power of self-expression and the impact of community support in personal development.

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00:00 Cold Open
00:31 This Week's Topic: Self-Discovery
00:39 Guest Introduction: Kim Guera
01:13 Kim's Journey: Breaking the Silence
04:24 The Power of Writing and Speaking Up
06:49 Creating Community: Badass Bonita
09:12 The Healing Process and Vulnerability
22:51 The Importance of Relationships in Healing
37:44 Embracing Queerness and Self-Love
42:26 Reflections on Healing and Growth
47:15 Final Thoughts

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Kim is a queer woman of color. She is a writer, advocate, and entrepreneur. Guerra is the creator of Badass x Bonita, a brand and movement that she considers to be a work of self-love and her love for her community. Guerra is the author of “Mariposa” and “Mija”: collections of bilingual poems, affirmations, and revolutionary love letters. Badass Bonita is for all humans who are giving themselves and their community wings through revolutionary love.

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Thursday Sep 12, 2024

Why Men Don't Change For A Woman And What To Do About It

Thursday Sep 12, 2024

In this week's episode Eli explores the age-old question, "Can a man change?" and delivers some hard truths for listeners, particularly women who hope to see their partners transform for them. He emphasizes that true change in a man must come from within, driven by self-awareness and personal growth, rather than from external pressures or relationships. Eli shares his own experiences of evolving through introspection and solitude, and he encourages listeners to embrace uncomfortable conversations in their relationships, while also recognizing that their partner's potential to change is not their responsibility to manage. Ultimately, Eli advises focusing on self-healing and setting boundaries, especially when a partner's lack of growth causes emotional turmoil.

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00:00 Can a Man Change?
00:33 Welcome to the Self Hype Podcast
02:13 The Big Question
05:59 Personal Reflections and Experiences
11:13 The Role of Self-Awareness and Accountability
12:47 Dealing with Defensiveness and Potential
16:43 The Reality of Change and Moving On
19:21 Embracing Uncomfortable Conversations
31:25 Final Thoughts

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Thursday Sep 05, 2024

How To Heal To Better Connect w/ Trauma & Relationship Therapist Maritza Plascencia

Thursday Sep 05, 2024

Eli sits down with his first therapist, Maritza Palacencia, a licensed marriage and family therapist, to explore the complexities of relationships, trauma, and healing. The episode delves into the challenges of navigating triggers within partnerships, the significance of radical honesty, and the importance of therapy in fostering intimacy and growth. Eli reflects on his own therapeutic journey and how Maritza's guidance was pivotal in his personal development, while Maritza shares insights on how couples can work through difficulties together and the transformative power of therapy. The conversation highlights the ongoing process of healing, both individually and in relationships, and emphasizes the value of addressing trauma and building healthier connections.

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00:00 Cold Open
00:32 Welcome to #SelfHypePod
01:17 The BuzzFeed Therapy Experience
03:17 The Impact of Therapy on Men
08:08 Maritza's Journey to Becoming a Therapist
14:12 Navigating Couples Therapy
24:30 Radical Honesty in Relationships
34:39 Navigating Trauma and Its Impact on Relationships
37:59 Understanding and Utilizing EMDR Therapy
41:37 Integrating Partners into the Healing Process
45:29 Managing Triggers and Attachment Styles
57:01 Knowing When to Work on Yourself or Walk Away
01:00:24 Final Thoughts

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Maritza Placencia

Maritza Plascencia is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, founder of Mindful Quest Relationship Counseling in CA. Her specialty is working with adult individuals and couples dealing with relationship issues rooted in trauma. She has worked with survivors of intimate partner violence and sexual assault in different capacities since 2007. Maritza completed her undergraduate work at University of California, Irvine, obtaining her Bachelor's Degrees in Criminology and English. She is available to speak at conferences and organizations.

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